proceeding w new year, are we turning more mature rather than just grow up?
Even proceeding to next life cycle, are we sure we have developed thus more mature in thinking, dealing with people and handling matters?
Certain way of reacting has to be changed, no matter how unwilling you are.
The earth rotate n even if u stood still there, the earth will still rotate.
Self reflection
Sad to see breathing creatures living by seconds and laying expectation that others must serve oneself.
The earth n other people dun owe us anything.
Penning this facing a vast blue sky
Ya, dropping the trivial matter. I dun wan to soak in this issue n turn myself like a clown.
Friday, January 23, 2009
Presenting oneself
Had a nite chat on msn with a friend whom we dun really do alot of face-to-face chat but once we are in the msn, i tot we hit it off quite well.
Talking about work and personal development; grooming and image projection
After working for so many years, we are still giving people the wrong notion that we r fresh graduates.
While we cheer on or youthful look, we gradually realise there must be something that we still 'lack'.
Treated as fresh graduates is no fun. That erodes our experiences, capabilities and even authority.
What can be so wrong...
Recently i have more time on hand to reflect on own career, choices of friends, time management and many things. read alot and talk to many people.
For years i m getting more conscious of my child-like intonation and use of words. That really dun allow me to go too far. That is why i tend to lose out during negotiations. How much more efforts required to convince the higher management of my choices and strategies. Over tiring and full of frustation.
Then the clothins that i have been putting on. Back in tat workplace, everyone or at least alot of us do not really bother with how we dress. We are like in a little playground of ourselves. We tried to act hip and wear fancy clothes. Especially most of our times spent working. So it is naturally that we wan to feel at ease with casual n often inappropriate dressing. Not to add in that the revised n revised uniforms added salt to our wounds.
How you walk, gesture, talk and wear really make u win half a battle. Almost everyone noe this theory but how many practice it?
View on branded clothes:
met up with an ex colleague, he told me his clothes all must at least be Mark & Spencer. To show he is up there, to show himself being presentable.
Branded clothes are often with refined textures and cuttings. That i wont dispute.
But how one carry him/herself carry more weight.
The fact is the way he dress, the choice of design, mix & match does not give justice to the monies he spent.
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My view:
Ultimately, i rang the importance:
No. 1 importance: Poise & presentation
No. 2 importance: hair
No. 3 importance: clothes that fit your body contour, colour that match, material that fit the occasion
No. 4 importance: appropriate accessories
Gonna work very hard on this
Talking about work and personal development; grooming and image projection
After working for so many years, we are still giving people the wrong notion that we r fresh graduates.
While we cheer on or youthful look, we gradually realise there must be something that we still 'lack'.
Treated as fresh graduates is no fun. That erodes our experiences, capabilities and even authority.
What can be so wrong...
Recently i have more time on hand to reflect on own career, choices of friends, time management and many things. read alot and talk to many people.
For years i m getting more conscious of my child-like intonation and use of words. That really dun allow me to go too far. That is why i tend to lose out during negotiations. How much more efforts required to convince the higher management of my choices and strategies. Over tiring and full of frustation.
Then the clothins that i have been putting on. Back in tat workplace, everyone or at least alot of us do not really bother with how we dress. We are like in a little playground of ourselves. We tried to act hip and wear fancy clothes. Especially most of our times spent working. So it is naturally that we wan to feel at ease with casual n often inappropriate dressing. Not to add in that the revised n revised uniforms added salt to our wounds.
How you walk, gesture, talk and wear really make u win half a battle. Almost everyone noe this theory but how many practice it?
View on branded clothes:
met up with an ex colleague, he told me his clothes all must at least be Mark & Spencer. To show he is up there, to show himself being presentable.
Branded clothes are often with refined textures and cuttings. That i wont dispute.
But how one carry him/herself carry more weight.
The fact is the way he dress, the choice of design, mix & match does not give justice to the monies he spent.
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
My view:
Ultimately, i rang the importance:
No. 1 importance: Poise & presentation
No. 2 importance: hair
No. 3 importance: clothes that fit your body contour, colour that match, material that fit the occasion
No. 4 importance: appropriate accessories
Gonna work very hard on this
High maintenance women
A senior friend related to me this... men dun like high maintenance women.
Both 'material' and 'emotional'
Men cant stand woman that spend alot of time on physical eg. makeup , shopping. Nor men cant stand those who need alot of attentions-almost every minute that men cant breathe
Forget about the discussion on how men think or like.
As a woman, which type r u?
Before i reflect on myself, like to talk about some women in my social life.
I have seen women who will go 'gaga' simply a porsche *sorry hor i dun even noe how to spell* passed by. 'wow' they shouted. N ppl around looked at them.. **sweat sweat
I have still some women that have super high demand on 'emotional' maintenance. It is very common to hear the aftermath.. that the guy ran away, off the phone, asked to breakup etc
i wonder if there are women who r both high maintenance in term of materials n emotions.
I haev and always a high maintenace in emotions.
Give me monies but dun give me the love i hope to, u dun love me at all.
Give me a hug n look right into my eyes, even if we are jus eating a cheap meal, i melted n promise to love u forever
When i m emotionally down, i hope my guy will give me the 100% concentration. May not be able to be right beside me but.. he made me noe he is tinking of me every minute
but that is too emotionally drained on the male..
Comparatively, i tink i m much better now.. up abit on material maintenance and down alot on emotional reliance. Will still be bothering n upset over 'below expected' concern. Feeling void n shallow on the r'ship when that part is not satisfied. But i m learning to handle n did not break the occasions as often as before.
Both 'material' and 'emotional'
Men cant stand woman that spend alot of time on physical eg. makeup , shopping. Nor men cant stand those who need alot of attentions-almost every minute that men cant breathe
Forget about the discussion on how men think or like.
As a woman, which type r u?
Before i reflect on myself, like to talk about some women in my social life.
I have seen women who will go 'gaga' simply a porsche *sorry hor i dun even noe how to spell* passed by. 'wow' they shouted. N ppl around looked at them.. **sweat sweat
I have still some women that have super high demand on 'emotional' maintenance. It is very common to hear the aftermath.. that the guy ran away, off the phone, asked to breakup etc
i wonder if there are women who r both high maintenance in term of materials n emotions.
I haev and always a high maintenace in emotions.
Give me monies but dun give me the love i hope to, u dun love me at all.
Give me a hug n look right into my eyes, even if we are jus eating a cheap meal, i melted n promise to love u forever
When i m emotionally down, i hope my guy will give me the 100% concentration. May not be able to be right beside me but.. he made me noe he is tinking of me every minute
but that is too emotionally drained on the male..
Comparatively, i tink i m much better now.. up abit on material maintenance and down alot on emotional reliance. Will still be bothering n upset over 'below expected' concern. Feeling void n shallow on the r'ship when that part is not satisfied. But i m learning to handle n did not break the occasions as often as before.
Wednesday, January 21, 2009
In conversation with a person who worked and attained certain level of success
it is time to get serious and check out on 'extraordinary' people whom have battled life obstacles and achieved much.
Tat is what often being brought up.. if u wan to noe success u need to check out how others do. This is not too hard , jus look around..
* recently watched 'trading spouses' in the afternoon. One episode had a rich & educated wife traded with another 'common' woman. The lst one made some wonder to the son of the 'common' family. She brought him to c a surgeon after him telling her that he is aspired to be one. He managed to get face to face to a surgeon n posted questions in mind. The questions he posed were so simple yet important for starter.. Kudos!
It took months and alot of courages and probably some kind of scheme n managed to invite this person for a dinner.
Equipped with a fast beating heart and list of questions in mind, i hopped into the car.
Dinner was sumptous but at intervals i felt choking.. it was a direct n frank talk n probably alot of time is 'talk down' on me.. I tot my vision was blurred.. Nevertheless, courage is great enough to continue to listen n reflect as much as i can understand.
Blaming others and situations were common among the common ones. The ones who determine to success may suck for a short minute and then think of how to get thing back in control. Tis is just too common, can hear or read from books! but how many of us can control frustrations.
Frustratios come from expectations..
N posing expectations on others r so easy. That leads to our frustration and let ppl fool us ard..
Have we pose expectations on ourselves? Being organised and stay compose. We often tend to give good excuse 'that is not possible'. But when we unconsciously or purposely pose expectation on others, did we hear that loud as well?
Out of 10, 8 situations can be controlled if you plan ahead, organise and response strategically. For 2 that may be so unexpected, you can steer it from how determine you r.
This is really true. I have completely forgotten about it.. i used to do that.. i told myself no one or no situation should prohibit me fr getting my education. I wan to be a white collar n doing well n fine like others. I achieved amidst alot of probs. I was afraid of ppl afraid of conversations, but i went ahead and knock on every employment agency i reseached just for interview to make mysefl comfortable with people n tense conversation.
These two years were terrible. I feel into trap of over-thinking. Many things i stopped myself even before putting out first step.. 'i cant', 'i afraid'
i got relationship and work problems and still allowed myself to be soak in others' similar problems. N got myself sink deeper n deeper into depression.
I wasted my time on ppl who r too carefree (probably they already chosen this path) n lead me blindly day in day out.
No i dun blame others. I DUN WAN to blame others
No i dun wan to suck.
I wan to plan ahead. it is so tough. I still have many questions on how to do this n that, ppl ard me cant help or refuse to help me.
Nevermind, 'i m afraid and frightened... wat the hell, just do it', 'whatever you say or do to me, i am still a worthwhile person'
If i dun wan my life, who will want? it's time to be responsible n fair to myself
Tat is what often being brought up.. if u wan to noe success u need to check out how others do. This is not too hard , jus look around..
* recently watched 'trading spouses' in the afternoon. One episode had a rich & educated wife traded with another 'common' woman. The lst one made some wonder to the son of the 'common' family. She brought him to c a surgeon after him telling her that he is aspired to be one. He managed to get face to face to a surgeon n posted questions in mind. The questions he posed were so simple yet important for starter.. Kudos!
It took months and alot of courages and probably some kind of scheme n managed to invite this person for a dinner.
Equipped with a fast beating heart and list of questions in mind, i hopped into the car.
Dinner was sumptous but at intervals i felt choking.. it was a direct n frank talk n probably alot of time is 'talk down' on me.. I tot my vision was blurred.. Nevertheless, courage is great enough to continue to listen n reflect as much as i can understand.
Blaming others and situations were common among the common ones. The ones who determine to success may suck for a short minute and then think of how to get thing back in control. Tis is just too common, can hear or read from books! but how many of us can control frustrations.
Frustratios come from expectations..
N posing expectations on others r so easy. That leads to our frustration and let ppl fool us ard..
Have we pose expectations on ourselves? Being organised and stay compose. We often tend to give good excuse 'that is not possible'. But when we unconsciously or purposely pose expectation on others, did we hear that loud as well?
Out of 10, 8 situations can be controlled if you plan ahead, organise and response strategically. For 2 that may be so unexpected, you can steer it from how determine you r.
This is really true. I have completely forgotten about it.. i used to do that.. i told myself no one or no situation should prohibit me fr getting my education. I wan to be a white collar n doing well n fine like others. I achieved amidst alot of probs. I was afraid of ppl afraid of conversations, but i went ahead and knock on every employment agency i reseached just for interview to make mysefl comfortable with people n tense conversation.
These two years were terrible. I feel into trap of over-thinking. Many things i stopped myself even before putting out first step.. 'i cant', 'i afraid'
i got relationship and work problems and still allowed myself to be soak in others' similar problems. N got myself sink deeper n deeper into depression.
I wasted my time on ppl who r too carefree (probably they already chosen this path) n lead me blindly day in day out.
No i dun blame others. I DUN WAN to blame others
No i dun wan to suck.
I wan to plan ahead. it is so tough. I still have many questions on how to do this n that, ppl ard me cant help or refuse to help me.
Nevermind, 'i m afraid and frightened... wat the hell, just do it', 'whatever you say or do to me, i am still a worthwhile person'
If i dun wan my life, who will want? it's time to be responsible n fair to myself
Monday, January 12, 2009
wa, pierce through heart
黑夜滲透了思念
偷不走微光閃現的千種畫面
我背著傷痛離開
孤單拖著記憶
支離破碎
原以為不會改變
眼淚在臉頰上乾枯失去知覺
我的心掙脫了愛
跟隨著夕陽埋進了海洋
為什麼相愛的人卻又為愛而紛爭
現實的翅膀擾亂了原本幸福的氣氛
我有我的過錯 我有我的疑惑 藏在面對面的折磨背後
為什麼讓愛躲進烏雲密佈的天空 隨著風漂流在外一點一點的散落
慢慢遠離的夢 漸漸冷卻冰封
心痛當初相遇的心動
偷不走微光閃現的千種畫面
我背著傷痛離開
孤單拖著記憶
支離破碎
原以為不會改變
眼淚在臉頰上乾枯失去知覺
我的心掙脫了愛
跟隨著夕陽埋進了海洋
為什麼相愛的人卻又為愛而紛爭
現實的翅膀擾亂了原本幸福的氣氛
我有我的過錯 我有我的疑惑 藏在面對面的折磨背後
為什麼讓愛躲進烏雲密佈的天空 隨著風漂流在外一點一點的散落
慢慢遠離的夢 漸漸冷卻冰封
心痛當初相遇的心動
Saturday, January 10, 2009
Friday, January 9, 2009
keke wat e fish?! e day e gathering stood still
Recently two pax from one of the ex companies wanna to have a gathering.
One of them smsed me that 'since you r so free, you do the coordinating'
*Raise eyebrows.. did i say i wanna have the gathering in the first place? *roll eyes.
Emailed both and then added in one more ex colleage via facebook email.
Told them they are what i have. N apparently they are linked up too. If really needed, i can help with getting contact of two others through one of the friend's friend. But we shoud put in effort together since they are the one who sparkle idea of meeting up.
The gracious lady whom i 'implicated' replied she can get the rest.
Hence we progressed to decide on date n venue.
That original two did not reply.
After sometime, e one who smsed me earlier, let's call him B, wrote back.
* Raise eyebrows!
He wrote aloud it will be more meaningful if it is set toward end of this month which is his bday. N then suggested that we do it at someone place to cut cost. But must note that not at his place
Wah! did i feel the earth shake abit?
Following day, he nudged me on msn (pls note that i have informed him many times that for first msn, do not nudge, it jus so crude but he still do that). N question me how the progress
*hammer on hand alrdy
So i wrote back in the email chain that i have not heard of any reply on date n venue and since B is so keen on his bday bash, we shall await for his bday invitation.
He is soooo panicky n said he can wait lah
Wahahahahah
*hammer crushes the shell?!
At this stage, i m not keen to pursue further. And gave them the two contacts i promised earlier to find for them.
The other guy, T, wrote back n seconded idea of doing it at someone hse n then pointed at that gracious lady. Then he said do not reveal HP number on internet cos may be....... n then suggest to get that two involve in thinkinng of the venue n date but disregarded he now alrdy have their number to contact.
Final stage, i m dropping out of this whole nonsence.
It is so obvious both want conveniences out of others. Want me to coordinate, wan gracious lady to spare her house. N if it is so bad as not to reveal HP on email. I think we should not state the date n time of our gathering. Wat if ppl hack our email n plan to rob us at that time and spot? also it could extend to possibility of not sms becos sms is not 100% foolproof. So there is so many WAT IF * can feel the pierce of my sword or not heehee
Chatted with one of my friends on this case. He also understand where i came from. A gathering is a gathering, a bday celebration is a bday celebration. After not meeting for 10 over years, we would not know how the response like and how we will be reacting to one another. And since B made himself clearly that it is to be held on his bday week, we will have to politically correct to treat or get him a cake rite? But there are other factors. .. we may need to find out who else in the group having bday ard the corner. If not, it is so unforgiving rite? And would ppl really keen to chop money to buy him cake or a treat? it is not about the costs but rather necessary? To him it is meaningful but to one who have not meet him for 10 yrs, does that make sense? Doing it at someone house mean cutting cost for you. Even if potluck, it will still require the host to play more parts. Maybe some will not mind. But they are the one who suggested and too quick to exclude themselve from extending their house. That is really overboard.
O no, who these ppl really r?
Let's keep strictly to facebook pal (o ya, do not ever email again, WATCHOUT!)
One of them smsed me that 'since you r so free, you do the coordinating'
*Raise eyebrows.. did i say i wanna have the gathering in the first place? *roll eyes.
Emailed both and then added in one more ex colleage via facebook email.
Told them they are what i have. N apparently they are linked up too. If really needed, i can help with getting contact of two others through one of the friend's friend. But we shoud put in effort together since they are the one who sparkle idea of meeting up.
The gracious lady whom i 'implicated' replied she can get the rest.
Hence we progressed to decide on date n venue.
That original two did not reply.
After sometime, e one who smsed me earlier, let's call him B, wrote back.
* Raise eyebrows!
He wrote aloud it will be more meaningful if it is set toward end of this month which is his bday. N then suggested that we do it at someone place to cut cost. But must note that not at his place
Wah! did i feel the earth shake abit?
Following day, he nudged me on msn (pls note that i have informed him many times that for first msn, do not nudge, it jus so crude but he still do that). N question me how the progress
*hammer on hand alrdy
So i wrote back in the email chain that i have not heard of any reply on date n venue and since B is so keen on his bday bash, we shall await for his bday invitation.
He is soooo panicky n said he can wait lah
Wahahahahah
*hammer crushes the shell?!
At this stage, i m not keen to pursue further. And gave them the two contacts i promised earlier to find for them.
The other guy, T, wrote back n seconded idea of doing it at someone hse n then pointed at that gracious lady. Then he said do not reveal HP number on internet cos may be....... n then suggest to get that two involve in thinkinng of the venue n date but disregarded he now alrdy have their number to contact.
Final stage, i m dropping out of this whole nonsence.
It is so obvious both want conveniences out of others. Want me to coordinate, wan gracious lady to spare her house. N if it is so bad as not to reveal HP on email. I think we should not state the date n time of our gathering. Wat if ppl hack our email n plan to rob us at that time and spot? also it could extend to possibility of not sms becos sms is not 100% foolproof. So there is so many WAT IF * can feel the pierce of my sword or not heehee
Chatted with one of my friends on this case. He also understand where i came from. A gathering is a gathering, a bday celebration is a bday celebration. After not meeting for 10 over years, we would not know how the response like and how we will be reacting to one another. And since B made himself clearly that it is to be held on his bday week, we will have to politically correct to treat or get him a cake rite? But there are other factors. .. we may need to find out who else in the group having bday ard the corner. If not, it is so unforgiving rite? And would ppl really keen to chop money to buy him cake or a treat? it is not about the costs but rather necessary? To him it is meaningful but to one who have not meet him for 10 yrs, does that make sense? Doing it at someone house mean cutting cost for you. Even if potluck, it will still require the host to play more parts. Maybe some will not mind. But they are the one who suggested and too quick to exclude themselve from extending their house. That is really overboard.
O no, who these ppl really r?
Let's keep strictly to facebook pal (o ya, do not ever email again, WATCHOUT!)
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