On msn with ex hubby.

He asked how come all along especially during marriage i did not seem to trust him.

I asked him an irritating qn which likely all men hate but it hit the core of the issue. I asked what he has done and not done for me to trust him.

The last time i trusted him was to go ahead with ROM despite he lied a couple of things. He asked me to give chance and to trust him. I did amongst all the tried stoppages from others. i gambled my happiness becos i chose to believe n trus him.

While we were together, he changed job. I trusted him and gave him all the support for him to step out into corporate world. I encouraged him to take the chance. Then another woman came in. Then he lied to me that he went biz trip just 2 weeks before our ROM but was with a group going on tour. Going a group tour is nothing much. But he has to lie. Lie is not much as compared to his acting. He took out documents stuff into his bag and told me how stress he was. That sincere and stress look. I still rem how i felt xin teng for him.

His frequent lies so as to be with that gal. His openly comparison on how good she is how bad i m. haiz alot of lies how to get me trust him? i could not even trust myself when with him.

Really in a r'ship TRUST is very important. Lies get u nowhere. Cos the more u need to lie, the more lies u need to cover up the previous. Then the r'ship and mutual trust jus break. Like a mirror, the crack will always be there.

Sometimes you will noe by doing something may hurt ur partner, but be open and talk about it and not telling lies. Cos the other partner is not stupid and does not want to be taken as idiot. When truth unfolds, the damages is not sth u wan or u can shoulder. Dont hurt others cos u have no rite to hurt others.

Treasure the trust build. Trust can be build over yrs but can be gone in split second

Trust, stay true and open ur heart to ur partner...

I hope he will do that to his next person :)